How many times have you said, “THIS is the week I’ll start exercising,” or “No more fast food,” only to find yourself doing the same old thing?

You’re too busy and exhausted. Not to mention you didn’t even get half of your to-do list finished.

Hence, the “I’ll start tomorrow or next week” cycle that never ends.

Guess what……the real problem isn’t that you don’t have time.

And I don’t mean you need to push harder. Or have more willpower or motivation. Or keep going even when you’re exhausted. Or that you should be more organized and efficient with your time management. *eye roll*

That is total BS!

The real problem is that you are giving all your time to everyone else and there’s none left for you.

Women are natural nurturers. We’re trained from day one to help others and give of ourselves. To the point that we feel guilty taking care of ourselves.

Self-care has become to equal self-ish in our minds and it’s reinforced in our society.

We always have that nagging feeling we’re neglecting something or someone if we’re resting, reading a book, getting our nails done or even taking the time to go to the gym after work.

If you really want to have time to hit the gym or whip up a healthy meal, you’ve got to move yourself up from the bottom of your to-do list.

Here’s how you do it:

1. Learn to say no. Such a simple word but so hard to say. You’ve been a “yes” woman all your life. Trust me, people will still love you if you don’t do everything they ask.

2. Let others do for themselves. Your kids, your spouse or partner, your family members (you know who I’m talkin’ about). You’re not doing them any favors by taking away their opportunity to learn new skills, grow and be independent.

3. Get help. We hate admitting we can’t do it all but you really can’t. Nobody can. You’ll be surprised how much weight is lifted when you don’t have to do everything yourself.

I know this doesn’t come naturally or easy. But if you really want that weight gone for good. If you really want time for exercise and healthy eating. If you really want to feel confident in your body, this is where you have to start.

I’d love to hear how you’re making more time for yourself. Did any of these suggestions make you cringe a little?

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